Valentine’s Day is often associated with romantic love, but it’s also the perfect time to reflect on the most important relationship you’ll ever have – the one with yourself!
A 2024 consumer report by Storyly found “A significant shift in Valentine’s celebrations (that) reflects evolving social trends—62% of 16-34-year-olds bought something for themselves for Valentine’s Day, marking a notable move toward self-care and personal wellness.”
For those navigating mental health challenges or the journey back into independent living, self-love can feel foreign. But it isn’t about grand gestures or perfection; it’s about the small consistent ways you can show kindness and care.
At Northern Healthcare, we believe in creating brighter futures by supporting people in their journeys towards independence and well-being. Part of that journey involves learning to love and care for yourself, even on difficult days. Here are five meaningful ways to practice self-love this Valentine’s Day, along with advice from our very own Northern Healthcare team members.
We often extend kindness to others but struggle to offer the same grace to ourselves. If you wouldn’t speak harshly to a friend for making a mistake, why do you do it to yourself? Self-compassion means recognising that everyone has ups and downs and treating yourself with patience and understanding regardless.
When negative self-talk creeps in, try shifting your perspective. Instead of thinking “I’m failing”, reframe it as, “I’m learning.” Acknowledge and remind yourself that healing isn’t linear. Celebrate the effort you put in, no matter how small it may seem.
Write down three things you appreciate about yourself every day, whether it’s your resilience, creativity, or even the fact that you got out of bed when it felt impossible.
“Today, I appreciate that I’m a good listener, that I made someone laugh, and that I kept going in stressful moments. I know the point isn’t to be perfect, but to notice that there’s always something good, even if it’s small.”
Scott Dennerley
Referrals Coordinator
Looking after yourself includes looking after your physical health, which plays a prominent role in mental well-being. This doesn’t mean forcing yourself into an intense exercise regimen or a restrictive diet – rather it’s about finding small, sustainable ways to care for your body in a way that feels good for you.
Movement, fresh air, and proper nourishment can all help improve mood and energy levels. According to The Big Mental Health Report 2024 by Mind, “almost half (45%) of UK adults feel that their mental health and well-being can be improved through physical activity”. Something as simple as a short walk, stretching, or drinking enough water can make a difference; and sleep is just as important – giving yourself permission to rest is an act of love in itself!
Find a form of movement that feels enjoyable rather than overwhelming – perhaps dancing to your favourite song, doing yoga, or just stepping outside for a breath of fresh air.
“I love taking long walks and carve out the time to do so whenever I can. Even if it’s just 30 minutes after work, I really feel the benefits in my mind and body. I also make sure to exercise in ways that I enjoy whether it’s dance, HIIT or Pilates.”
Ellis Owen
Marketing & Communications Executive
When you struggle with your mental health, even everyday tasks can feel like mountains to climb. But just because something seems “small” to others doesn’t mean it isn’t a victory for you. Whether it’s attending an appointment, reaching out to a friend, or simply getting through a tough day, every step forward deserves recognition.
Mental Health UK released their 2024 Burnout Report concluding that “while the majority of adults (73%) feel able to manage stress and pressure levels in their lives, almost 1 in 4 adults (24%) feel unable to do so”, with feeling overwhelmed listed as a common symptom of burnout.
Take time to acknowledge your progress instead of focusing on what you haven’t done yet as self-love means celebrating yourself, even when you don’t feel “productive.” Remember, healing and growth aren’t measured by how much you accomplish but by how you keep going, no matter how difficult it gets.
Keep a “win” diary where you write down things that you’re proud of each day- no matter how small they may seem. Over time, you’ll see just how far you’ve come!
“I have recently started a weekly planner and have written down the goals I want to achieve each day. It might only be one thing that I really want to get done in that day rather than a full to-do list. At the end of the week, I tick off what I have managed to complete. This weekly planner is for both work and personal goals like self-care & studying. I feel a sense of achievement even if I have only managed to complete some of the tasks because they are things I really wanted/needed to do.”
Kerry Collis
Assistant Finance Manager
Loving yourself means knowing when to say no. Boundaries protect your mental health by ensuring you don’t overexert yourself emotionally, physically or socially. This might mean limiting time with people who drain your energy, allowing yourself time to rest, or recognising when you need support.
Boundaries aren’t selfish, they’re necessary so it’s okay to take a step back from situations that make you feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
Practice saying no without guilt. Start small, whether it’s turning down plans to rest or limiting time on social media if it affects your mental health.
“I’ve been trying to be more patient with myself. In the past, whenever something bad happened, I’d rush through my emotions—sometimes even giving myself a time limit on how long I was “allowed” to focus on the negative. But I’ve come to understand what truly helps and what doesn’t. I’ve learned that it’s okay to take the time I need to process things, rather than forcing myself to quickly return to a sense of “normal”.”
Rebecca Gibson
Marketing Manager
When struggling with mental health, it’s easy to feel disconnected from things that once brought happiness. But even if you don’t feel excited about interests right now, gently reintroducing them can help reignite a sense of purpose and enjoyment.
Whether it’s painting, reading, gardening, playing an instrument, or simply watching your favourite film, engaging in activities you enjoy – even in small doses – can boost your mood and remind you that life holds moments of joy even in the hardest times.
Take a look at these NHC articles on the mental health benefits of baking, gardening, yoga, and more if you’re stuck for inspiration:
The Mental Health Benefits of Baking – Northern Healthcare
Walking for Wellness | Exploring the Mental Health Benefits of Walking – Northern Healthcare
The Mental Health Benefits of Gardening – Northern Healthcare
The Surprising Benefits of Yoga for Your Mental Health – Northern Healthcare
Six Mental Health Benefits of Swimming – Northern Healthcare
Make a list of things that have made you happy in the past, no matter how small, and pick one to try again, even if it’s just for five minutes.
“These are a few of my favourite things that help me escape to my happy place. Most are linked to memories. Crafting, listening to music, dancing like no one is watching, and feeding the ducks and geese at Etherow Park or Reddish Vale.
I am also a prolific reader and love getting lost in a good book, and my ultimate favourite is I am a proud wrestling geek; I watched it with my Dad when I was little on the TV on a Saturday. My fellow wrestling geek is my son (and with him) I have been blessed to see many wrestling (stars) work their way from the independents to WWE, AEW and New Japan.”
Emma Redman
Regional HR Business Partner
Self-love isn’t always easy, especially when you’re facing mental health challenges. But it’s not about being perfect or having everything figured out – it’s about showing yourself patience, care, and understanding, even on the days when you don’t feel like you deserve it.
At Northern Healthcare, we support individuals in their ambitions for better well-being, and self-empowerment so, this Valentine’s Day, we encourage you to take a moment to recognise your worth with the same kindness you would offer a friend.
Because you are worthy exactly as you are!
Valentine’s Day Retail Trends and Statistics
The Big Mental Health Report – Mind
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